I lost my brother yesterday; what do I do?

I don’t want to write too much as I am freaking out right now, but please, someone who’s going through this talk to me.

10 thoughts on “I lost my brother yesterday; what do I do?

  1. I’m so sorry for your loss. The coming days and weeks are going to be really rough, but you can get to a place of peace again. You won’t get over it, I don’t think we ever will. You’re likely in a state of shock and it does wear down eventually. I lost my brother 11 months ago. It took about 9 for my anxiety to allow me to close my eyes peacefully at night. It still sends a shockwave through me occasionally though. I hope you have a lot support of family and friends through this. Think about attending meetings when you’re ready. I go to compassionate friends with my parents. I wish you and your family all the best. Again, I’m so sorry.

  2. you can talk to me. my brother died a month ago.
    there is nothing that can make you feel better except to know that you are not alone. so cliche, i don’t know if there is anything that can make you feel better…

    there is no pain like losing a sibling.

  3. For now Keep breathing, keep doing what you must to maintain your health and job, look after your parents and any Kids he had.

  4. There is no easy solution to what you are going through. I feel your pain. I lost my brother 9 months ago. All I can say is it does get easier over time. Just try to what feels right for you and get strength from your family!

  5. I’m not entirely sure what you should do as I just lost my brother last month on the 12th of May.

    I am very overcome with grief. We were very close and I detected no indications that he would consider suicide.

    I am seeing a counselor in a weekly basis. The initial days after his death, were a blur of very intense emotion, along with times of halfway calm because I’m handling his estate.

    It’s been almost a month. Candidly, today has been one of my hardest days. The reason I searched out this site…

    I’m grateful that I have a very supportive family and friends. Hopefully you have some of those folks in your life.

    I feel like I’m on a merry-go-round and deal with the many different emotions over and over. My counselor says that is normal.

    I’m not sure if I’m helping, but wanted to at least respond.

  6. This is probably going to be one of the hardest times you will ever go through. I know the sadness will never go away. Most people can still continue going to work, and maintaining responsibilities, but that feeling of sadness will never go away.

    I lost my brother in September, and I still can’t believe it. I miss him every single day. I’m sorry to hear about your loss. Just try to keep your mind busy and I find not drinking alcohol helps. That would’ve put me in a bad spot.

    Read other letters in here. If it’s been one day or 40 years since losing a sibling, all the letters sound the same: just utter heartbreak. I hope you can find some peace. It is going to be rough for a while. Best wishes.

  7. I lost my brother 10 years ago now so I want to say I understand how you feel. I remember the crushing pain of loosing him ad I’m going to be honest with you. The next few weeks and months will be for want of a better word horrific. You will be lost and devastated. You will likely get angry and will no doubt get tired of being asked if you are alright. But that is ok. You need to let yourself feel these things because if you don’t it will only be worse. It won’t be easy. But it dose eventually get to a point were you wake up and it’s not the first thing in your mind. Truthfully it never stops hurting but you learn to not let it keep you down. Just remember you are not alone. Yes it sucks. It’s not right and it’s hard but people are here to listen and support you. You will get through it and the world will be ok again. Different but ok.
    You’re in my prayers

  8. Hi I’m new here. I lost my brother 8 weeks ago. Biggest shock of my life. I spend a lot of time doing practical things like walking my dogs, washing my kid’s clothes. I also see my parents everyday to check that they are ok as they are in their mid 70s. My hubby lost his brother to suicide 3 years ago . I also have traumatic grief counseling which is very helpful. I guess we have to be strong people xx

  9. Hi. Hope you are getting by these days. There really aren’t words to describe the depth of pain and sorrow one goes through in a time like this. I lost my brother to suicide 8 months ago and It’s been a roller coaster ride. The first 4 or 5 months were really intense!! My emotions felt unpredictable and cut me to the core. They were emotions I never ever could of imagined I’d have. I didn’t know if they’d end! The last couple of months have felt a bit more manageable. Still hard and painful but I feel a strength I haven’t felt since my brother – Christian – died by suicide. Surviving Suicide of a loved one is a very traumatic thing to try to cope with.. please seek someone to talk to on a regular basis. I had people tell me to seek out counselling right from the beginning and I aggressively declined. I chose to talk to close friends and family at that time. … Whenever i found words to muster up I wanted to talk to people I knew or that knew my brother. I just was NOT ready to see a stranger!! But at the 3 or 4 month mark I started counselling and it has gradually helped. I am praying for you and all of the others and myself to keep strength to go on and find ways to honour or very precious angels. Much love to you!!

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