Welcome to the Sibling Survivors Site!

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The Sibling Survivors of Suicide Loss site aims to provide a safe place for anyone who has lost a sister or brother to suicide. It’s a place to share memories, discuss your feelings and experiences, and to share photos. It’s a place to connect with others who also miss their sister or brother.

The site was created in 2001 by Michelle Linn Gust. She passed the site on to the POS-FFOS Internet Community in November of 2014. It officially re-opened on January 4, 2015.

We invite you to explore the site and participate. We need you; help us make this site a safe and supportive place for other sibling survivors. You can participate by Creating a Guest Post, sharing an Inspirational Thought or Message, or Writing a Letter to your Sibling. Please see those pages for more information.

Sibling Survivors is maintained by volunteers from the Parents of Suicides (POS) and Friends and Families of Suicides (FFOS) Internet Community and others. Learn more about these groups on the About Us page.

afraid of love

May 21, 2023Guest PostGuest Poster

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I wrote you a letter when I was 11, and I told you I loved you. I told you not to die. by your hands or any other. I am afraid of love now. to take it in, to receive it, even to be near it. it makes me so uncomfortable. it scares me, it makes me lash out. I am trying to heal. I am trying to get better. I don’t blame you. I just need to tell someone. I’m 22 now, and I think I’m in love. this won’t work unless I let it, but I don’t know how. I will learn. I have to learn, or things will only get worse.

My Sister’s Birthday

May 10, 2023Guest Post, LettersGuest Poster

Dear Sis,

It’s been almost 7 yrs since we lost you and today is your birthday. I miss you terribly and think about you all the time. It breaks my heart to think of how difficult things must have been for you.
You were a wonderful, generous to a fault, loving mom, grandmother, aunt and sister.Love you always,
SJ

Permanent Dullness&hellip

April 21, 2023Guest PostGuest Poster

Hey Cheech. I remember when I first started calling you that, after you hated me calling you Cheechee. I can’t believe how time keeps going no matter what. But also that empty hole in my heart is forever here. It feels like a persistent lump in my throat sometimes. Like I forget to breathe when I think about you and our memories.

I really try to not get angry at your decision. Nobody can ever imagine how painful it is to lose a sibling by suicide until it happens. It’s unbearable knowing we’ll never get an opportunity to live together, eat at cool ass restaurants, experience hardships together. You were only 21. Only 21. I get so constricted internally thinking about all the things you were dealing with in a dark cloud.

I wouldn’t wish this insatiable, everlasting, numbness on anyone’s heart.

I miss you

April 4, 2023Guest Post, LettersGuest Poster

I miss you, Mike, I miss the friendship we could’ve had. I hate that you took away the opportunity for us to really get to know each other. I hate that you took away my big brother. I hate that you left your kids. I hate the way you did it. I hate knowing I won’t get to talk to you again, won’t hug you again, won’t receive an awkward birthday phone call. We didn’t get to drink together. I didn’t get to know you. not really. I want you to come back.

Happy birthday to someone who makes the world a brighter place

April 2, 2023Guest PostGuest Poster

Happy birthday to someone who makes the world a brighter place “Auguri Di Buon Compleanno”

Birthdays are special occasions that allow us to celebrate the people we love and cherish. In Italy, the traditional birthday greeting is “Auguri Di Buon Compleanno,” which roughly translates to “best wishes on your birthday.” In this blog post, we’ll explore the meaning of this phrase and discuss how to make someone’s birthday extra special. Whether it’s your best friend, family member, or significant other, we’ll provide ideas for how to celebrate the special people in our lives and make their day one to remember.
Who is the person celebrating their birthday?
The person celebrating their birthday is someone who makes the world a brighter place. Perhaps it’s a friend who always knows how to make you laugh or a family member who is always there to lend a helping hand. It could be a significant other who has been your rock through thick and thin or a coworker who brightens up your day with their infectious positivity. Whoever it is, take a moment to reflect on why they are special to you and how they make the world a better place.
I have a friend named Sarah who is celebrating her birthday next week. Sarah is one of the kindest people I know. She has a heart of gold and is always there for her friends and family. Sarah is also incredibly talented, with a knack for painting and a love for all things creative. She never fails to inspire me with her passion and determination. I am so grateful to have her in my life, and I’m excited to celebrate her birthday in a special way.
Why birthdays are important
Birthdays are more than just a day to receive presents and eat cake. They’re an opportunity to reflect on the past year and set intentions for the year ahead. Birthdays mark the passage of time and remind us of our growth and accomplishments. They also provide a chance to connect with loved ones and strengthen relationships.
Birthday celebrations have a rich cultural and historical significance. In ancient times, people believed that evil spirits were particularly active on a person’s birthday. To protect the birthday person, family and friends would gather to offer good wishes, presents, and prayers. In Western cultures, birthday cakes are a popular tradition. The cake, candles, and the song “Happy Birthday” all have symbolic meaning. The candles represent the number of years the person has been alive, and blowing them out is a symbolic way of making a wish. The song “Happy Birthday” is an anthem of celebration, wishing the birthday person a happy year ahead.
Psychologically, birthdays can also have important benefits. Celebrating milestones and accomplishments can help boost self-esteem and confidence. Social connections and celebrations with loved ones can also have positive effects on our mental health, reducing stress and feelings of loneliness.
How to make the person’s birthday special
If you want to make someone’s birthday extra special, there are countless ways to do so. Here are a few ideas:
Plan a surprise party: Surprise parties are a classic way to make someone’s birthday unforgettable. Gather their friends and family and plan a surprise party, complete with decorations, food, and drinks. Make sure to keep the party a secret, and watch as the birthday person’s face lights up with excitement.
Cook them a special meal: If the birthday person loves food, consider cooking them a special meal. It could be their favourite dish or something new and exciting. Set the table with candles and make the meal a special occasion.
Make a DIY gift: A handmade gift is a thoughtful and personal way to show someone how much you care. Consider making a photo album, a scrapbook, or a painting for

Conclusion
A. Recap of the main points
In this article, we have explored the meaning and significance of “Auguri Di Buon Compleanno” and how it relates to celebrating the birthday of someone who makes the world a brighter place. We have discussed the importance of birthdays and how they have been celebrated throughout history and across cultures. Additionally, we have provided suggestions and tips for making the birthday of someone special even more memorable.
B. Final birthday message for the person
To the person celebrating their birthday, we want to wish you a very happy birthday! Your presence in this world has made it a brighter and better place, and we are grateful for everything you do. May this year be filled with joy, happiness, and success in all of your endeavours.
C. Call to action for readers to celebrate the special people in their lives
As we celebrate the birthday of someone special, let us not forget to celebrate the special people in our own lives as well. Take the time to show appreciation for those who make your world brighter and better. Whether it’s a family member, friend, or colleague, let them know how much they mean to you and how much you appreciate them. Make their day special, just like they make yours.
In conclusion, birthdays are a time to celebrate the lives of those who make our world a better place. “Auguri Di Buon Compleanno” is a beautiful expression that captures the essence of this celebration. By taking the time to acknowledge and appreciate the special people in our lives, we can create meaningful connections and build stronger relationships. So, let us celebrate birthdays with joy, love, and gratitude, and make every day a little brighter for ourselves and those around us.

Chaos

March 30, 2023Guest Post, LettersGuest Poster

I’m missing you more than I should today. My heart is tearing more and more as the minutes pass. My chest is tight, I feel like I’m suffocating.… my eyes can’t hold back the pouring tears today. I’m hurting here without you today. You’re the only comfort my body needs today, and you’re not here. My throat can’t handle the gulps anymore… the pressure of grief. I cut my hair this morning. I showered, I drank water, I slept in, Im trying brother.. I miss you so f** much today.

Sibling Inspiration Submission Sent

March 28, 2023InspirationGuest Poster

¡Me encanta este post!

Leo tu blog muy a menudo y siempre ofreces grandes cosas .

Lo compartí en Facebook y a mis seguidores les encantó.

¡Seguid con el buen trabajo!

I just lost both my brothers to suicide

March 28, 2023Guest PostGuest Poster

I just lost both of my brothers to suicide. My family is very close, especially us siblings. I’m the oldest and only girl. My brothers were my best friends, we talked every day. The first brother to pass was 17 years old. Then, exactly 4 weeks later to the day, my 23 year old brother also passed. We had all been talking and open about our grief and thoughts about suicide to protect each other. We kept encouraging my brother to get counseling/therapy, we were all looking out for each other. I don’t know why this is happening but I’m the only sibling left… They were so young and won’t get to experience so much.

To My Bro Dan

March 23, 2023LettersGuest Poster

Dan I miss you. It’s been three whole weeks and I just don’t know how to deal with the fact that you’re gone. It’s feels surreal. I miss you Dan. I know we didn’t talk much recently but please believe me when I say that I was trying to protect myself…. in the past, challenging times for you meant that I wasn’t safe. But I know you tried. You tried so hard, you sweet boy.
You were kind and loving and I’m told that you were the most devoted friend. We hold the same things dear Dan. We both love art and odd things in nature. You thought it was the coolest thing when your big sister in grad school got her motorcycle license and I thought your tattoos were beautiful – I just got a temporary one for you Dan. It’s the one you got for Kraina because I want to remember you as your most loving self. Your love for her was magic. I prayed that one day I’d find that kind of love, and I did Dan. I wish you would’ve gotten to know Reuven more. I know he doesn’t look like your type with his engineer vibe but he’s so quirky and creative too- he’s one of us Dan. And he’s so sensitive and loving. Inside, you guys are very similar actually.

I wish we could go kayaking and sea glass collecting together. We totally could have taken a trip together- you, Kraina, reuven and me. I think we’d all love Guatemala. I’m gonna take Ma there and we’re gonna hike the volcano and think of you. You would have loved so many parts of life Dan. I know you were so tortured and couldn’t accept love and I’m so sorry for being obnoxious to you when we were younger. I was honestly scared of you and angry that you made my life unsafe and unpredictable. But we don’t need to talk about that now. I know you felt guilty for that and I just want you to know that I forgive you for those years. I worked through it in therapy and I’m really okay. You were just a kid and life was so freaking hard. I wish you could forgive yourself too, and forgive me.

I really thought you turned into such a cool person – kind, creative and so much generosity. Ugh I should’ve given you that darn guitar you wanted.

Dan I don’t know where you are right now but I just want you to know that I love you. You’re my only sibling look-alike and beyond that, we’re made of similar stuff. We both feel and care a bit too deeply (you were so wise in so many ways), we have that creative eye, love animals, workout lovers. We’re kind of spiritual- not religious, don’t worry.

Dan I know you were so proud of me for breaking the mold. You thought it was so cool I took pole classes – said you respected the workout and that I’m doing me. Well I think you’d think it’s cool that I started a boudoir photography business. I’m ducking out of corporate a bit to pursue a creative passion. It brings me such joy Dan. I wish I could tell you so you could be proud of me.

We were the most open minded in our family Dan. I really thought you and me would be friends one day. Our kids would look alike. It’s like the future was just snatched from me and I really was looking forward to it.

Please Dan, wherever you are, know your big sis loves you and was proud of you. At just 23, you were so much bigger at than all of us in a lot of ways. I promise to keep you alive by doing and being in ways you would.

I’ve been in touch with Kraina and she’s so wonderful. I wish you guys were together when you passed, for your sake but not for hers. She’s really suffering as it is. But she got the crane tattoo also. She said “he got it for me so I’m getting it for him”. So we’re tattoo sisters now 🙂 I love mine. Feels like I see some of you every day… and I love what it says about me- I’m making bold statements for my bro, and I’m wearing my feelings on my sleeve – get it? Cuz it’s on my wrist? I love you Dan. I’m gonna make you proud. Promise. Love, Neens

For Marcus

March 17, 2023Guest PostGuest Poster

Between each heartbeat I think of you.

You were the first real person I loved outside of our parents.

I thought you would be here forever. Long after I’d gone. I never contemplated you going. Now you’re gone. Before mom and dad. Before aunts and uncles. Before me.

I don’t want to be here without you. I don’t want to have to mourn our parents without you. We were supposed to help each other through that.

It feels as though I’ve lost a part of myself. When you were alive I knew (I just knew) there was a piece of me that was out there in you. Now there’s just a hole.

You are gone. You are not gone. I feel like I’m living two realities. I feel as though I’m reaching for something I will never find. I’m trying to grasp something that isn’t there.

My dear little brother. I know you’re at peace now, but the peace brought by that realization is so fleeting.

I miss you. I love you.