Guilt

How does one cope with the sadness of losing a sibling this way? How does one cope with the guilt?

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5 Responses to Guilt

  1. Michelle says:

    Coping, grieving, healing–these are all paths that are individual to each survivor. Personally, I found reaching out to other survivors at groups or online forums (such as this) helpful. To hear their stories and how each day we all keep putting one foot in front of the other. I write my brother letters when I really feel the desire to speak with him. Try a few things and see what provides some comfort.

  2. Paul says:

    I lost my younger brother Sept ’16. I wish I had some words of wisdom for you…

    The Guilt doesn’t seem to go away, completely. I try to remind myself that Guilt doesn’t do anyone any good, no benefit and it doesn’t change a thing. My brother would not want me to roll around in my own guilt. He would have been the first one to tell me to “let it go”. I have to think that his taking his own life was bigger than me and that there was nothing I could have done to alter the ultimate outcome.

    The only thing that I have done to help ease that rolling feeling of guilt is to talk about it to someone. I am not really a “talker” but for me, verbalizing it, getting it out in the open, helps a bit…for a while.

  3. Kristi Zimmerman says:

    The guilt is the worse. I struggle with this daily and it has been over 20 years since I lost my brother. As the oldest sibling, it was my job to protect him. I miss him so much.

  4. Naomi says:

    I am 24. And 3 months ago lost my older sister to suicide. I haven’t reached out to talk yet. I don’t know what to feel. Waves come and go and tonight I feel guilt. Pain in my belly so complex to even start to talk about how it feels? I am safe and I am not depressed but this ache of missing someone you love so so much will it go away. When do the tears stop.

  5. Vanessa justice says:

    I am in the same boat , I lost my baby sister , she was 23 . She took her own life in November after having an altercation with her boyfriend . The guilt consumes me , I am so angry . I am so angry she told him she was gonna kill her self if he left her apartment , he just thought she was being dramatic ?? He never even apologized to my mom , who’s heart breaks everyday .and I am full of anger and guilt . I can’t do _ abou to it . This is so crazy , she had just graduated , and started grad school for engineering . She did it one month before my mothers wedding . She was happy the day before . How the _ does this happened. Now friends and family treat us like we were cursed . It’s amazing because unless it’s happened to you it’s almost taboo to think or talk about . Many of my friends haven’t showed support , because they don’t know how to. Everyone in our family is mourning and we all do it so differently . Lately I just pretend she and I are fighting and not talking to each other for. While . God have mercy on us all .

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