Hello, I have been bestfriends with my bestfriend for 8 years and have been living with him and his family (mum, dad and older brother) for the past 2 years and consider them to be my family. Last week my bestfriends brother hung himself on the tree in our back garden, his dad found him and his brother tried to bring him back to life but it was too late. My heart aches for my bestfriend and his parents, this house feels haunted somehow. I understand grief stays with us forever sometimes and it’s the price we pay for love. If anyone has any advice I would love to hear it. I haven’t stopped hugging my bestfriend, I constantly tell him how much I love him and that I will always be here for him.
2 thoughts on “Living with a grieving family who lost a son/brother”
I am very sorry about the loss of your best friend’s brother and you telling him how much you love him and that you will always be there for him, I’m sure means a lot to him and is a comfort. My best advice to you is for the family to find a support group in your area that they can meet with. I attend one and it helps to be with others who understand what you are going through.
I am so sorry to hear about your friend’s loss. I feel compelled to share my own story because I feel like it might help you in your efforts to be there for your friend. I lost my own brother a little over a week ago to suicide. It’s been the worst week of my entire life and the only comfort I’ve been able to find is in the presence of my close family and friends. One of my friends I have been best friends with for fourteen years and she has been such a great comfort to me over the past week. She has helped me with her mere presence; she keeps telling me that I can reach out to her whenever or wherever I need, that she is there whether I need to cry, or talk, or even if I just need a distraction (she’s got a bunch of gifs lined up to send me if I need a laugh). The fact is that sometimes all someone needs is to know that they have someone there for them, ready and waiting to help in whatever way they can. I’m sure that, like me, your friend finds great comfort and reassurance in your presence. I thought you just might need to hear this from someone in a similar situation as him.